This one goes out to all my perfectionists out there

I got this following list from my amazing counselor Roy Austin. He's the man!

The Curse of perfectionism
or
"When doing your best is the worst you can do"

1. When you base your sense of worth and self-esteem on your performance

2. When your best is imposed upon you, and your driving emotion is fear

3. When you don't count the cost of doing your best, and then later resent the price you had to pay to achieve it

4. When your "best" is only a vague concept rather than a specific, measurable outcome

5. When your best is required in too many tasks

6. When you become defensive or feel like a failure at those times when you don't do your best

7. When you can't enjoy having done you best because you discount it with, "But I should have done even better."

The Blessing of Excellence
or
"The Best Way Possible to Do Your Best"

1. When your self-esteem is not determined by your performance

2. When you have willingly chosen or accepted your goals, and you basic driving emotion is desire

3. When you have carefully evaluated what your "best" requires and are willing to pay the price without resentment

4. When your "best" is a clearly defined and measurable outcome or behavior

5. When you limit your "excellence" goals to those you can realistically achieve. Do not attempt the best in everything

6. When you learn and grow from those times when your performance is less than your best

7. When you allow yourself to take pleasure in your performance, and let it motivate your toward new goals.